New Beginnings

Having a happy relationship is tough work, having a baby is tough work, but keeping a happy relationship after the baby is even tougher work. That is why it is so vital to build a happy relationship before the baby comes. First, it is crucial to go on dates. Whether you have been married for 1 month or 10 years. Dating lets you communicate with your spouse and spend time together, rather than just sitting on the couch and watching a lame TV show every single night. Dates don’t have to cost a lot of money, in fact, creative and cheap dates are more fun and way more memorable. Date before, during, and after baby to keep that strong bond between you. Second is expressing yourself in words. It is super important to do this because you never want to make your husband feel unappreciated. Don’t let him wonder what is running through your mind. Tell him why you love him and express to him your worries. Third, ask for help. It is not a sin to ask for help, whether it is from your husband, friend, or family. When asking, be kind. No one wants to help you if you’re snappy and rude. Especially your husband. Explain to him why you need help and what needs to be done and I’m sure he will be happy to help you. Fourth, make “me time”. Make time for yourself to do something you enjoy. Being stuck at home with a screaming child all day would make anyone cranky. Whether it is a yoga class, lunch with friends, or naptime, you need to keep your sanity to keep a happy relationship with your husband. Lastly, don’t forget your husband. I know you will be mesmerized by that tiny infant, but your husband needs attention too. Spend time together with your baby and let him bond with the baby also. Letting him have insight to what you are feeling for that baby will give both of you the chance to feel closer to each other because you both created this sweet little baby and are in this together. Don’t let your love for your husband get pushed to the side.